In our quest for happiness we must be sure that we don't
settle for a Playmate when God has a Soul mate waiting for us.
Sometimes this is a hard distinction to make. Playmates are tricky.
They are so much fun to be with that even the smartest of us will be
fooled into thinking this has to be our Soul mate. Worse yet too many
of us attempt to make a Soul mate out of a Playmate.

The danger of this is that later, after years of playing we
will meet our Soul mate, but it may be too late. We may have already
made a Life mate of our Playmate and created life-long bonds (emotional,
children, etc.). Or we may have been hurt from playing so hard that we
are in no shape ourselves to be anyone's anything. How can we
distinguish between the One, and just another one? First, we must be
open with ourselves about who we really are and what our soul yearns
for. Only you and God know what is truly in your heart and mind.

Only you know what will make you truly happy and whole. In
order to find your Soul mate you have to know you, first. You must be
willing to listen to that inner voice. And is that voice telling you
that the nerdy person you enjoy talking and sharing your thoughts with,
could be him? What about that friend who is always willing to go the
extra mile for you when no one else will.

Oh no! He's too short or too tall, balding or too hairy, and
on and on Just too ordinary looking for me!

Then there's that girl who makes you feel so special when
you're around her, but she doesn't match that ideal you have conjured
in your head. She's too tall, not slender enough, not light or dark
enough, not shapely enough, not attractive enough, and on and on. She
just couldn't be for me! So what if he or she doesn't look like Shemar
Moore or Vivica Fox. Is he or she going to treat you like the jewel
that you are?

Not only that, his or her soul and yours will commune in ways
you never imagined possible! In order to heed that voice, we have to put
on the back burner our own superficial thinking. Could it be that your
inner desire is for a truly genuine person with a good heart? If you
enjoy playing, stay on the playground. There are plenty of Playmates out
there to occupy your time.

But don't spend too much time playing or you may play your
life away. Eventually the playing loses it appeal and your soul begins
to crave a deeper, more meaningful connection. Your soul begins to
crave your Soul mate.


Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option...